17 Tips for Accepting Your ADHD Child

17 Tips for Accepting Your ADHD Child

The success of your child will have will begin with you accepting that he or she has developed ADHD.  If you have a negative attitude about this condition, like thinking that your child is just lazy or misbehaving you're wasting valuable time in getting your child out of constant confusion.  You will not be able to properly care for your child with this belief system.  If you are looking for a pill or therapy to fix him or her you will be left exhausted.  There is no cure for ADHD and it's not something you can cause.

1. Accept that he or she will have special needs and you will have to make room in your mind for that fact.
2. Stop beating yourself up, you can't cause ADHD.
3. Don't blame your child.
4. ADHD can last his or hers entire life.
5. .I can't say this one enough there is no cure for ADHD.
6. Try an focus on what the child does right, rather than trying to fix all of the deficient areas.
7. Don't attempt to correct the child if the environment is difficult, change the environment to fit your childs needs.
8. If you find something that works, keep doing that until it no longer works.
9. Don't set your expectation based on how old your child is because children with ADHD lag behind other children by a couple of years.
10. Get rid of the words "he will never...", because it's not true they just take a little longer to catch on.
11. Your child will have good days and bad days.  Regulating their own behavior will be an moment to moment struggle. 
12. It's your job to remove possible problems, like T.V. in their rooms, video games, laptops all things that seem to hold their need for stimulation.
13. It's important to allow your child to experience consequences for poor behavior.
14. Don't listen to others who believe your coddling your child by providing them with extra support and accommodations.
15. Do not get defensive about your child poor behavior or you and your child will be rejected.
16. Apologize for your child's inappropriate behavior and explain his or her condition.
17. I know you think its probably none of anybody's business your child's condition and you would be correct. If you want a supportive environment for your child this is the correct approach.